Whether it’s a night on the town or a trip to the grocery store, one of my favorite trends (although I don’t feel “trend” is necessarily an appropriate word for this timeless look) is the chic and ever-flawless head-to-toe noir. Not only am I too often lazy when it comes to waking up early to assemble an outfit but I rarely ever feel emotionally capable of putting one together the night before (I like to live recklessly, what can I say?) so throwing on all black is an easy way to boost my confidence about 100%. I feel effortlessly chic and in-control of life. It’s my powersuit. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love color and I wear it liberally but when I’m feeling a little insecure or having trouble making a decision about what to wear then, to me, all black is always the answer.
Black is one of those fabulous colors that looks expensive no matter how much you pay for it (assuming you’ve followed my rules) and, this may be my personal opinion, but you can never really have too much black. Maybe four pairs of nearly identical boots is too much but you get the point. Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall; black is always effortlessly chic and forever in style. It’s a look you don’t need jewelry with or perfectly styled hair or even makeup. Chapstick and clear skin (for some of us that’s fresh faced but for others it’s concealer or light foundation; only a few rare unicorns actually have great no-need-for-makeup skin) can actually be enough for this look and we don’t look like we’ve given up on life or gone through a bad breakup.
Now a couple variations to the all-black trend include adding a pop of color in a bag or statement piece of jewelry, a bright shoe or even just a pop of color on the lips. I’m in love with a good red lip and I think it amps up the look by about a billion or so. If you can’t find the right red lipstick or think you can’t wear it because of your skintone or it always gets on your teeth then there are solutions. Then there’s my personal favorite of the trends; the fur coat. Swoon.
Okay, so the ultimate factor in wearing all black is this: confidence. If you’re wearing all black because you think it will disguise your hideousness, you’re in a losing battle. Genuine confidence (none of this fake confidence crap) is something that comes from feeling good about you. Not cocky or conceited or thinking you’re the most gorgeous person to walk the earth but confidence in knowing you are doing you and doing your best at it each and every day. A girl who sits on the couch crying about being overweight while eating a cheesecake by herself is not going to ever feel good about herself. A girl of the same size and complexion who’s eating healthy and trying to get into a good exercise routine is not wasting time getting comfortable with her unhappiness; she’s recognized a desire to change and she’s put it into motion. Ladies, If you want to feel good about yourself, give yourself reason to feel good. (Such sage advice, I know. That’s why it’s in bold.) I use weight for this example but really it’s for any problem we have that gets us feeling less than we are. Effort! Trying can be hard and exhausting and it is so much easier to give up and cry about it but the one problem with that solution is, oh yeah, it isn’t a solution! But really, to close this little rant off, no amount of clothing will give you confidence if you don’t have it in you to begin with. You can’t buy that. It just requires some emotional elbow grease and a lot of hard work and picking your self up again when you fall short. Never give up on trying to be a better you. (*Remember: We are all created differently. One girl might have more curves than another but that doesn’t make either of them overweight or underweight. A persons healthy body is unique to them and so when I mention someone being overweight I mean just that. There is a difference between curvy and healthy and overweight due to diet or health. Some also have medical conditions that make them underweight or overweight no matter what they eat and therefore they are not in control of that part of themselves and should not feel helpless or depressed because of something out of their control. Never would we want to put undue pressure on ourselves to be something we are not.)
And on that note (and completely disregarding this not-so-subtle segway,) start your all black wardrobe with some great inexpensive pieces like these from H&M:
(Or hunt for your own collection at thrift stores or items on sale/clearance at your favorite stores!)
X’s & O’s chickabiddies.